Keep going, Keep growing.

In the last few months, I’ve come across some really great people, made some extremely beautiful memories, lost some people who were once the most special, learned a lot of lessons here and there, landed myself a job, and well, a Masters degree. Besides all the filtration, there still seems to be a question that just wouldn’t stop popping into my head. And that is, “What is the purpose behind my existence in this world?”
We’re all here on earth, because of God’s grace. We didn’t choose this life. This life chose us. We were brought into this world, and moulded into the human beings that we are today, to run the race majority of the world is running. To earn money, and make something out of our lives. To be able to afford all those things, we couldn’t earlier. To give our loved ones the life they’d never expected to see. But ask yourself, if that’s enough. Ask yourself, if that’s the reason why you even came into this world. This? Something every other individual is doing, or wishes to do? That’s all? What about your own growth as a human being. What about fulfilling the purpose of your existence, and giving back to the Universe.
Someone recently told me “Life is too short and unpredictable, and it is extremely vital for every single human being to grow. To grow from a Zero to a Five, from a Five to a Ten, and from a Ten to a Hundred.”

The point is, keep growing. Don’t settle for something you think you deserve. Don’t settle for something which gives you all the comfort and convenience possible. Don’t settle for something that doesn’t require you to put in your 100%. Don’t settle for something that doesn’t challenge you every single day, and makes you think twice before sleeping peacefully.
You’re born to give your best, and if giving the best keeps you on your toes, keeps you motivated, and makes you feel passionate about your work, every single morning when you wake up, then you’re going to grow, and there’s no stopping after that.
There was once a delivery boy, who worked for a 6 months old tiffin services start up, and delivered food to the customers all round the day. Every single day, without fail, he’d show up at work on time with a smile on his face, and finish his deliveries efficiently. This continued for a year and he made 10% of the total sales daily. He started building a great connection with his daily customers by knowing their needs and wants, their tastes and preferences, and realized that this could benefit him if he starts his own business. He was content with his life as a delivery boy, and he was happy with the pay, but I guess he had this fire burning inside him, to grow, and do something more. And so, he did. He collected funds, added them to his savings, built trust with a bank, and soon, opened his own little tiffin service firm that catered to all the gaps that his previous employer couldn’t take care of. It took a while but he became successful, and one of the most preferred tiffin services firm in that particular region. Because of that little spark. Because of that passion. Because he didn’t want to settle for the life, he thought he deserved.

Don’t waste your time doing things, that wouldn’t give you the kind of happiness you’d get by doing things you’re passionate about. You don’t have to make people happy all the time. You don’t have to be someone’s shadow to fit in, and be loved. You don’t have to let yourself get influenced by people who aren’t worth all those efforts. You don’t have to please anyone.
You’re enough, yourself. And you deserve to lead the life you wish to build. You must make your own decisions and walk with pride. You take responsibility for yourself. You must be confident and self-sufficient to live life your own way. You make mistakes and learn from them, only to come out stronger and better. You grow. Grow. Look ahead. And just grow.

Life is really too short to be wasted on temporary things and people. Focus on your life, make yourself happy, wake up every morning with that little fire of passion, feel proud of yourself, smile and keep growing.

Make your life worth your existence in this world.

-Tanya Singh Kochar


Let your light shine.

I often wonder if the life we’re living and the things we see are really true. Are the things we hear, actually what we wish to hear, are the things we say actually heard the way they’re supposed to be heard? And I have my doubts on the things we feel. Are our feelings even real towards things, moments and most importantly, people? I’m not quite sure, because everything around feels temporary. Nothing lasts. And I’ve come to realize there’s no “always” or “forever” and I’ll go on to explain why I am saying what I am saying.

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A few years ago, I’d come across a quote that basically stated that “forever” doesn’t exist. And I believed in forevers so much, that I dissed that quote and went around saying it to humans who apparently mattered at that time, which was almost everyone. What I didn’t realize is that “forever” is too scary to be true. What I didn’t realize is that forevers can’t be so many. It’s probably just that one person. Or a few. I mean, imagine you’re stuck with a particular person forever. You have to deal with something forever. And what do I know about forevers? How long is a “forever” going to last? Is “forever” for a lifetime? Or it’s for the immortals. I don’t get it now. People leave. People lie. People break your heart. People hurt. People. People. People. Forever.
I’ve come to realize that sometimes the best things slip away from your life, like they never existed in the first place. They slip away, mostly “forever” and you’re sitting and wondering “but wasn’t the best supposed to stay? Wasn’t this my “forever “?
As we grow up, we start feeling like we’re finally understanding life, finally getting the whole point of our existence, we’re finally learning things, we’re maturing with time, and we’re able to make decisions and handle things well. But there’s always a contradiction to everything. And while most of you reading this would definitely agree with me, there’d be some who would completely ignore this, because they have their own perception, and that’s fine. But what i think is, it’s really not that transparent, really not that easy after all. I fail to understand the purpose of a lot of things around me. Why people behave a certain way. Why things don’t turn out the way you want. And it’s absolutely alright if I can’t, yet, but I will at some point of time. The crux is, that it’s okay to be unable to figure things out. And it’s okay to not understand the reasons behind what people say and do.
Had life been so easy, we wouldn’t have been doing what we’re doing now in life. We meet certain people for a reason. Maybe their stance in your life is for a few days, weeks, months, years, God knows, but the fact is, that they teach you some things here and there, knowingly unknowingly, and it’s totally up to you how you want to take it. It’s entirely up to you how you want to make yourself feel, how you want to perceive it.
Life will never come easy. Because the day it does, it won’t be life enough. It won’t feel real. It won’t feel like anything. We humans are used to complications. We humans are used to tackling things. We humans have a fight. We humans tend to work things out to overcome problems. We tend to crib a lot for the smallest of things. We cry. We realize. We accept. And we get up.
So let’s spend the rest of our lives worrying less, caring more, thinking appropriately, and living in the moment. Just simply making sure, that we’re keeping our cool, being our genuine best, staying positive, and having a lot of patience. What’s meant to happen, shall happen. Believe in yourself enough, to make things happen the way you want.
Work on it. Don’t just say it. Don’t just believe it. That’s not enough. Make it happen. Make it happen.
Even if it’s a “forever”, make it happen. It’s your life. You drive it. You control it. You choose.
If you love someone, and you know it feels right, it feels perfect, you find yourself smiling at just the thought of his or her name or face, then let that person know. Let’s not spend too much of our precious time thinking, let’s actually do this, let’s get going, and let’s do what makes us happy, let’s do what feels right, let’s live for ourselves.
If you wish to apply at your dream organization, but you find yourself at the utmost skeptical stage, then pause for a second, and think to yourself “what if” and nothing in the world can stop you. Try and listen to your voice, your heart, know what you want, and then go with that. Your first instincts. Your first call. Apply.
As I always say, life is too short, let’s not waste it, my friend.

Let’s live it up, and make memories with our favorite humans. Let’s take those pending trips, let’s explore, let’s find ourselves, and let’s just give ourselves infinite reasons to smile. Can we do that? You have the answer.


-Tanya Singh Kochar

Learn to let go.

As you grow up, you realize that sometimes it’s just better to let go. Let go of certain people, some said words that bother you, and situations that make you feel unwanted or just simply sad. With time, I’ve realized that it’s always better to just pass a smile and move on, rather than choosing to react at that moment, and make things worse. Sometimes, it’s just advisable to tell yourself to calm down at times when you are literally about to burst into a million pieces inside, waiting to scream, waiting to say something back, just to make sure you’re not targeted ever again, or so that the other person believes you aren’t that weak a person. Is it so?
“If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.”
Someone very close once told me “Don’t utter a word when you’re really angry at someone or something, wait for yourself to cool down, and then think over it, before you react.”
Such simple advice, but it carries so much strength. And there’s no harm in running over this exercise, it’s a win-win for you either way,  trust me!
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
I’ve learned that sometimes it’s okay to not hold grudges against anyone, no matter how much you want to let that person know what you feel. Like I always say, life is really too short to dislike anyone at all. It’s better to spend that same amount of time loving someone and spreading smiles, howsoever!
Everyone around here is fulfilling a purpose in life, some are studying hard to get a great paying job, some are working hard to run their house and take care of their family, some are slogging daily to get into their dream college, to get a secure job, to buy a bigger house and to let their parents finally live a peaceful retired life relaxing at home with all the luxuries they deserve!
“Everyone is fighting a battle, we know nothing about, but it’s always good to keep the positivity around yourself constant and contagious!”
Till the time the world is blessed with your existence, keep doing what you love doing, but add something more to it, add some value, that’ll make you smile whenever you’d think of it. It’ll make the others smile when you’d tell them about it. Make sure you don’t upset anyone, and if you do, go apologize and make them smile right away! If you have some free time, don’t waste that time sleeping extra, sitting idle, or posting pictures on social media. Instead, offer a helping hand to someone who could be benefited from it. Go distribute some of your old clothes to the poor, go teach the nearby village kids, contribute a part of your earnings to feed the poor, play with the underprivileged and let them know how it feels to win, share some of your life stories with them that could give them some kind of inspiration and drive to make their lives worth it, and you’d gradually realize that whatever you chose to do, you’ll find yourself smiling ear to ear, knowing that you could spread some positive vibes and smiles around, without much of a hassle! See, it’s not that difficult after all. Why don’t you give it a shot? Plan it today, and execute it.
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
I hope you promise yourself this second onward, that you’d live your life a lot better than you did before, and do the reverse of all the things you did wrong!
The times you probably reacted in the worst possible way, try facing that same situation with a smile on your face, and spend the rest of the day happily, without worrying a bit!
The truth is none of us will ever be fully satisfied with the lives we’re living, the people we are associated with and the number of successes life throws at us! There’s always something or the other in our lives that holds the power to pull us back and in turn, makes us believe that our life isn’t perfect enough. Well, who’s looking for perfection when you can enjoy the imperfections and still manage to plant a smile on your face and spread the same for a change? Why are we always running after temporary things in life when there are bigger and more enjoyable motives in life to fulfill? You have this one life, now decide, do you want to live this life being tagged as a cunt, as someone who holds grudges against others for petty or not-so-petty issues, as someone who’s wasting so much time being unhappy, as someone who’s running behind something just like the remaining other billion people, or you’d rather add some value to the limited years you’re here for, and build something great out of it, and turn it into something more vibrant and meaningful, and feel happy and thankful for your existence? Oh come on, you know what you want now.
A star falls from the sky and into your hands. Then it seeps through your veins and swims inside your blood and becomes every part of you. And then you have to put it back into the sky. And it’s the most painful thing you’ll ever have to do and that you’ve ever done. But what’s yours is yours. Whether it’s up in the sky or here in your hands. And one day, it’ll fall from the sky and hit you in the head real hard and that time, you won’t have to put it back in the sky again.
Now go forgive someone, show some love, make people around you smile, go and help the needy, go and get some blessings from the elderly, do something valuable, make this one life that you have completely worth your purpose of existence!

There’s some sort of magic in the Unexpected.


Have you ever been happy about something one day, and felt its complete opposite the next? No? Okay, because I do. And it’s surprisingly the most unexpected feeling. I never knew I’d be writing here about it, but here I am, sort of regretting, but also convincing myself that it’s for the better.

Well, I’m serving my notice period currently, and it’s my last day tomorrow, and honestly I’ve been wanting to leave since day 1, which of course, is really not cool, but I never got good vibes from this place, or even the people. But that’s normal; no new place would ever make you feel comfortable just like that, in the first go. You need to suit yourself to the environment, and make things work out for you. So I did. Made some friends, found motivation, started enjoying my work, and gathered enough confidence to face any kind of problem or situation with a smile on my face. Yes, there were times when almost everything around me was going against me, and I was on the verge of breaking down and giving up just like that, I was ready to walk out. And then I asked myself one simple question “Is this the same Tanya who writes about Positivity and motivates others to keep their hopes up, because good things always await the other side of the tunnel?” and that got me going. Yes, you can motivate yourself, you just need to keep your head up, and keep reminding yourself “You can do it, you can get through. Just smile, take a deep breath and fight your way into this world.”

Not that I literally “fought” my way out (that’s just to say), but it’s true that in a place like this, you can’t let short temperedness, ego or impatience take over. You need to be calm, and not react. The more you react, and the more you show how unhappy or dissatisfied you are, the more the others will take advantage of you, and step over you to move ahead. Be it anywhere, not just your workplace, there will be lots of cases where you’d probably want to give up and run away, but it’s self-belief and self-actualization that’s going to be your cure at times like this.

Today, being my second last day here, I’m slightly teary-eyed, because this place has given me a lot, taught me how to tackle situations, made me a stronger person, given me some good friends I can hold onto, introduced me to the kind of work I’d love to be associated with, in future, given me direction, and has also pushed me to be a better person who doesn’t need to react to unnecessary and irrelevant drama to get through life, but tackle them wisely and confidently to prove my worth, not just to others, but to myself as well, and the ability to accept things faster, than letting them hang around for no genuine reason.


There isn’t a single place on earth you’d dislike for too long. It’s a part of life to not like something or someone initially, but gradually ending up becoming a fan of that place or person later in life, because of the experiences involved. Always remember that if things go way too smoothly in your life for a long time, chances are that nothing is going right. There is a need of a couple of barriers you need to tackle, a couple of problems you need to find solutions to, a set of people to deal with, and a hundred situations to get through. Because without these, your life will be uneventful, boring, plain, and worthless. Challenges will add color, fun, memories, moments, experiences and lots of new learnings to your life. don’t fear taking risks.

Had I not stuck around that time when I felt like giving up, I wouldn’t have ever known the path I had to follow, I wouldn’t have known the right and mature way to tackle situations, and I might not have been able to write this article.

It’s the unexpected that changes our lives.

And here I am, about to start a new phase of my life in less than a month 🙂


Good Luck, buddy!


Mission To Thrive


This post is for all those who have stopped believing in themselves. This post is for all those who have lost their way, and are trying to get back on track. This post is for all those who once loved themselves with all their heart, but gave up because life happened. This post is for all those who are just living their lives out of monotony and boredom.

I have one question to ask. Do you want to stay like that for good, or do you want to utilize that same time doing something you love, being with that someone special, forgiving the ones who hurt us, bringing a smile on your parents’ face, following your dreams and having the ability to differentiate between the right and the wrong, and never ever compromising on your happiness.

You might think all of the above stated, are easier said than done. Yes, maybe that’s true. But is that your goal in life, to not even give it a shot? Do you not want to even try, and take a chance, and at least see for yourself till what point you can reach.

What’s going to happen, max to max? You’ll fail. You’ll fall again. You’ll get disappointed. You’ll start cursing your luck. You’ll tell yourself you don’t believe in destiny. And that nothing good will ever happen to you. You’ll shut yourself completely. You’ll go back to doing what you were originally doing, and probably blame me for telling you to try. You’ll spend lesser time with friends and family, and more time with the boring life you’ve chosen for yourself. Or you’ll just entirely give up and never fall for this trap again. (Well, it’s not a trap, to be honest. It’s called a Push, which will be explained below)

So, what next? That’s it? Your motive in life is complete? Is this the reason behind your existence? You might feel you’re being cornered and bombarded with all these questions, and shouldn’t you be asking yourself all these questions and simultaneously finding your answers too?


You are one of those lucky people in this world who is able to read this, and comprehend. You’re one of those people, who has a legit qualification, a job in hand, a family, a life partner, a house, basic resources and other necessities. You have at least 3-4, out of the listed. There are a million out there who don’t even have one of these things. You know why? Because their destiny didn’t allow that. But there’s something they have, and you don’t. Ever wondered what that is? Well, they have a fight in them. They’re more courageous in life, and have a stronger will power, than you.  They didn’t choose this life for themselves. But they have this fighting spirit in them, and if that flame ever blows off, they don’t give up, but instead figure ways out to light that fire again. And that is what we lack. Well, most of us.

Goals need to build like a fire. It starts as a flame consuming all you put into it and burns hotter and hotter the more you work at it. In simpler terms, this burning fire can be labelled as Enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success. When you do a thing, do it with all your might. Put your whole soul into it. Stamp it with your own personality. Be active, be energetic and faithful, and you will accomplish your object. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. And even if it takes a long time, don’t give up so soon. Enthusiasm is nothing more or less than faith in action. Not giving up immediately is way better than regretting later in future. Passion and purpose go hand in hand. When you discover your purpose, you will normally find it’s something you’re tremendously passionate about.

There’s a way to achieve this kind of enthusiasm, wherein you’re involved cent percent. And how do you do that. It doesn’t simply appear in your life, and drags you ahead in life. It’s something that you need to work upon in order to move upwards. And how will you work on it? It’s simple. You’ve first just got to throw away all the negativity from your life. All the things in your life that pull you back, or make you feel less like yourself. All the things you depend on to make yourself feel at peace with the real world. All the people who bring out your worst side and convince you to do things that go against your principles and values. Think about these few things and people. And ask yourself how any of it has helped you become a better person, so that you could overcome your mistakes and fears, and grow out of them to accomplish something in life. Yes, they might have helped you at that particular moment to forget whatsoever happened with you, but what then? Look at your current situation. Are you any better, or still the same? Do you see yourself doing well; do you see yourself smiling wider than the last time, do you think your life finally has a worth?


Mark my words, you’ll feel a sudden change letting go of all the negativity. Each morning, you’ll feel thankful and happy. Everything around you would seem even more beautiful. You’d suddenly feel a lot closer to your loved ones, and know why they exist in your life, and what role they’ve played, that they’re counted as your life jewels. You’d look at yourself in the mirror and feel a lot fresher and better. That feeling of having let go of negativity completely, will give you a reason to feel more positive. It’ll generate an internal push, which would make you do things, with a fresh mind and heart. Your way of talking would improve, your face would have a whole new charm, your actions would speak positivity out loud, and the result? It would be a lot more different from last time. Try.

It isn’t easy to suddenly let go of the negatives, and bring in the positives. A female bird takes several rounds to gather twigs, to build a nest for her offsprings. It takes days of hard work. But the end result? The offsprings have a nest that helps to insulate them from the cold. The bird has to fly through strong winds, and other various weather issues. Had the bird given up midway, there would have been several regrets. And that’s exactly what one needs to understand. There would be hardships, always. All you’ve got to do is, fight with yourself and focus on what makes you happy, what you want to achieve for yourself, and reach that level where you can have all that you want, and gift yourself ample reasons to smile. Trust me, my friend, when you’ll look back, your heart will be filled with joy, passion, enthusiasm, pride and so much positivity!

Go ahead, and give your life a shot! You don’t even know how long you’re in this world for. Seize each single day, and make the best of moments that you’ll remember for life. Give yourself a reason to smile, and make the right use of time, it’s way too precious, and wouldn’t wait for you. Keep pace with it, and focus! Believe in yourself, and enjoy each day like it’s your last.


If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived? Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen FOR you, TO you and BECAUSE of you.”

Good luck, my friend.


Let life surprise you…

I think there’s a part in each one of us that wants the impossible to happen, and that’s what surprises are.


There are times when we start telling ourselves we aren’t meant for the best things in the world, maybe because of our experience in the past. Those “best” things cross our minds as “temporary” and “unstable” because we start questioning its authenticity unknowingly. It’s not like we are becoming pessimistic in life, but yes for that particular time period, no doubt, we tend to repel all kinds of good things and people we come across, no matter how genuine they are.

It’s like our mind is playing all these games with us, to see how we tackle them, but that’s unfair right? What if we push away the real best, and regret later because of our fear? The fear being whatever happened with us in the past, anything or anyone related to it. Sometimes when you least expect it, good things knock at your door and before you even know it, you let the door open and let it in. isn’t that surprising? It’s a fact that when we have a bad experience, we usually learn from it and make sure we never get into it again or anywhere close. We refrain ourselves from saying and doing a lot of things, because of our fear of getting hurt again. But the truth is, sub consciously, we’re looking for something better, way better, no matter how much we tell the world that we’re never letting anything or anyone affect us again. Good will always happen. I believe the only thing that we really have control over is our attitude. If we focus on the positive things in our lives and learn how to cope with all the surprises, we will be happier.

Recently I observed something about myself I had been avoiding for a long time, because it was too painful. Yet once I did, I had an unexpected surprise. Rather than self-hatred, I was flooded with compassion for myself because I realized that pain is necessary to develop that coping mechanism, to begin with.

Things never go the way you expect them to. That’s both the joy and frustration in life. It’s always hard to find out that a person you once considered a great friend has completely turned their back on you. Life is full of surprises, some good and some bad. From my experience, bumping into bad ones never gets easier, but you learn to accept it, learn from it, and move on, because trust me when I say this, life is short, and you don’t want to be wasting it by regretting, and missing out on better things and people. It is imperative that you make the most of right now. The quicker you understand how valuable time is, the quicker you’ll stop wasting it. You’re wasting your time by trying to predict the future. Instead, focus on being the best person you can be right now.


So sometimes, unexpectedly, you meet someone you weren’t ever associated with earlier, but with time, the need for an association becomes unnecessary. The person you’ve been looking for will come into your life when you least expect it. There’s so much more to life, you realize, and there are so many more reasons to still look back and smile, because full stops are meant for endings, not for new beginnings. So if something or someone knocks at your door and makes you smile end to end without any reason, don’t let go because of something that happened in the past. Treat it as a blessing, treat it as your next chapter, and let the little little things make up for a beautiful story. It might just end up turning into a novel, you just never know.

Most people want to be circled by safety, not by the unexpected. The unexpected can take you out. But the unexpected can also take you over and change your life. Put a heart in your body where a stone used to be.

“A brick makes an excellent window cleaner, if you throw it hard enough. Before you know it, your window will look so clean you’d think it had been replaced with a new one.” 

Sometimes an unexpected turn of events will leave you smiling, and when that happens, be appreciative and observant of the wonder that has been bestowed upon you. It is how you react when things don’t go your way that shapes your outlook on life and builds the strength within yourself to conquer the journey to success and happiness. The world works in mysterious ways. Sometimes things will turn out in your favor. But when they don’t, you just have to roll with it. Your life will not turn out as perfectly as you imagined. This doesn’t  however, mean you can’t live a life full of joy and satisfaction.

Take advantage of the opportunities you are given and do not be afraid of risk. If a friend asks if you want to tag along somewhere, say yes. Who knows, you could have a great experience or even meet someone special. Don’t turn down an offer because you are afraid of how it will turn out.  An unknown outcome heightens the thrill of the ride.

Expectations cause the stress of a situation to rise. If you are an optimist, you expect everything to go perfectly. This will make you worry about the endless ways something could go wrong. If you are more of a realist, you’ll expect everything to be worse than it actually will be. This will discourage you from even wanting to go through with the situation you’re so eagerly anticipating. In order to worry less, stop the expectation of any outcome, good or bad.


Life can be full of unexpected things, either happy or sad, but no matter what things may happen, just always keep a loving heart, a wise mind and a strong faith in you.


Every little effort has a reward.

“If you put in little effort and expect big returns, you will be deeply disappointed. You don’t get apples by planting lemon seeds.”

I think most of us invest majority of our time in making efforts for the people who mean something to us, but at the same time, we also expect them to make similar efforts for us too. And honestly speaking, there’s nothing wrong with that. Everyone has certain kind of expectations, only because they have this belief that whatever they have done for others, they will definitely do the same too, at some point of time. But it’s also a fact that our disappointment, irritation, anger, sadness most often arise because others didn’t respond to us in the way we imagined they would, so rather than looking down and focusing on ourselves, we’re always looking ahead and at others. And that’s what gets us into emotional trouble. Right?

When it comes to the simple act of giving, motives and mindset really matter. Many of us are unconsciously so self-centred that everything we do, even within our closest relationships, is actually bartering rather than unconditional giving. We all realize that giving on any level feels really good, but internally all forms of giving are not created equally.  This is where motive comes in. When we give with the expectation of receiving something in return, we are not really giving with a pure motive. But when we give from a generous heart, the joy of giving becomes its own reward.


When you give generously, it opens up your heart to an enhanced sense of peace, love and joy. Because your motive is pure, your heart is free to experience giving at the highest level. This is an empowering mindset that fuels both giving and receiving because there is no resistance involved. But when you do something for someone out of high expectations, the end result is often disappointing. You put limits on the ways that you can receive. You cannot be giving without expectation and be hoarding at the same time.

Never give up. Never stop trying. It’s like breathing—once you quit, your flame dies letting total darkness extinguish every last gasp of hope. You can’t do that. You must continue taking in even the shallowest of breaths, continue putting forth even the smallest of efforts to sustain your dreams. Don’t ever, ever, ever give up. It is not given to us to know what difference we can make, and maybe we can make no difference at all. But that is no reason not to make the attempt. Remember, the light shines more brightly in the darkness.

Expectations take time.  They take emotional energy.

Negative expectations yield negative results; positive expectations yield negative resultsThat’s not to say we shouldn’t have goals or expectations.  Goals are good and expectations have their benefits. Expectations can inspire us to work hard to make those expectations more closely aligned with reality.  By definition a “goal” is “the result or achievement toward which effort is directed” and “expectation” is “the act or state of looking forward or anticipating.”  We can have goals without expectations and have expectations without goals.  The former will motivate us.  The latter will disappoint us.  By putting effort into achieving goals we are working toward a specific outcome.  With expectations, we are hoping for a specific outcome.  Hope is not typically a successful strategy. It takes effort and belief to persevere and stay dedicated to accomplish your goal. When you find yourself doubting whether the effort is worth it, visualize how you will feel and what you will have once your goal is completed.

Live your life the way you want, and do what makes you happy, and make efforts for your loved ones without actually expecting anything in return, because honestly, if they really are your loved ones, then they’re acknowledging it all, they don’t always have to show it, and it’s a fact that they genuinely love and respect you too, because you deserve it, the fact that you exist in their lives. So be giving, be thankful and be nice. Don’t think so much, don’t expect.

‘Blessed is the man who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed’ – Alexander Pope


Even after all this time,

The sun never says to the earth “You owe me.”

Look at what happens with a love like that,

It lights the whole sky.