I think there’s a part in each one of us that wants the impossible to happen, and that’s what surprises are.
There are times when we start telling ourselves we aren’t meant for the best things in the world, maybe because of our experience in the past. Those “best” things cross our minds as “temporary” and “unstable” because we start questioning its authenticity unknowingly. It’s not like we are becoming pessimistic in life, but yes for that particular time period, no doubt, we tend to repel all kinds of good things and people we come across, no matter how genuine they are.
It’s like our mind is playing all these games with us, to see how we tackle them, but that’s unfair right? What if we push away the real best, and regret later because of our fear? The fear being whatever happened with us in the past, anything or anyone related to it. Sometimes when you least expect it, good things knock at your door and before you even know it, you let the door open and let it in. isn’t that surprising? It’s a fact that when we have a bad experience, we usually learn from it and make sure we never get into it again or anywhere close. We refrain ourselves from saying and doing a lot of things, because of our fear of getting hurt again. But the truth is, sub consciously, we’re looking for something better, way better, no matter how much we tell the world that we’re never letting anything or anyone affect us again. Good will always happen. I believe the only thing that we really have control over is our attitude. If we focus on the positive things in our lives and learn how to cope with all the surprises, we will be happier.
Recently I observed something about myself I had been avoiding for a long time, because it was too painful. Yet once I did, I had an unexpected surprise. Rather than self-hatred, I was flooded with compassion for myself because I realized that pain is necessary to develop that coping mechanism, to begin with.
Things never go the way you expect them to. That’s both the joy and frustration in life. It’s always hard to find out that a person you once considered a great friend has completely turned their back on you. Life is full of surprises, some good and some bad. From my experience, bumping into bad ones never gets easier, but you learn to accept it, learn from it, and move on, because trust me when I say this, life is short, and you don’t want to be wasting it by regretting, and missing out on better things and people. It is imperative that you make the most of right now. The quicker you understand how valuable time is, the quicker you’ll stop wasting it. You’re wasting your time by trying to predict the future. Instead, focus on being the best person you can be right now.
So sometimes, unexpectedly, you meet someone you weren’t ever associated with earlier, but with time, the need for an association becomes unnecessary. The person you’ve been looking for will come into your life when you least expect it. There’s so much more to life, you realize, and there are so many more reasons to still look back and smile, because full stops are meant for endings, not for new beginnings. So if something or someone knocks at your door and makes you smile end to end without any reason, don’t let go because of something that happened in the past. Treat it as a blessing, treat it as your next chapter, and let the little little things make up for a beautiful story. It might just end up turning into a novel, you just never know.
Most people want to be circled by safety, not by the unexpected. The unexpected can take you out. But the unexpected can also take you over and change your life. Put a heart in your body where a stone used to be.
“A brick makes an excellent window cleaner, if you throw it hard enough. Before you know it, your window will look so clean you’d think it had been replaced with a new one.”
Sometimes an unexpected turn of events will leave you smiling, and when that happens, be appreciative and observant of the wonder that has been bestowed upon you. It is how you react when things don’t go your way that shapes your outlook on life and builds the strength within yourself to conquer the journey to success and happiness. The world works in mysterious ways. Sometimes things will turn out in your favor. But when they don’t, you just have to roll with it. Your life will not turn out as perfectly as you imagined. This doesn’t however, mean you can’t live a life full of joy and satisfaction.
Take advantage of the opportunities you are given and do not be afraid of risk. If a friend asks if you want to tag along somewhere, say yes. Who knows, you could have a great experience or even meet someone special. Don’t turn down an offer because you are afraid of how it will turn out. An unknown outcome heightens the thrill of the ride.
Expectations cause the stress of a situation to rise. If you are an optimist, you expect everything to go perfectly. This will make you worry about the endless ways something could go wrong. If you are more of a realist, you’ll expect everything to be worse than it actually will be. This will discourage you from even wanting to go through with the situation you’re so eagerly anticipating. In order to worry less, stop the expectation of any outcome, good or bad.
Life can be full of unexpected things, either happy or sad, but no matter what things may happen, just always keep a loving heart, a wise mind and a strong faith in you.