Stepping into a new world, a new city, and a new life. It carries with it, a bag full of adventures, stories, people, experiences, ups and downs! Your life is what you make for yourself, you’re the creator and you’re yourself the destroyer. There are a lot of setbacks. Yet, you do what you want to do. You take your own decisions and you try your best to do justice to all that you’ve planned for yourself. Even if it involves moving out of your comfort zone and starting a new life in a whole new environment. It takes time to settle down, but once you’re even a step closer, you automatically start feeling motivated to keep moving until you’re where you need to be! A person shifting from one city to another city or one country to another, there will always be certain barriers for you to tackle, and a lot of adjustments to make. Adapting to the style of living, language, habits, dressing, food etc. It’s not compulsory, you can do your own thing anyway, but there’s no harm in trying it all out if you’ve planned to stay out of your comfort zone. The whole point of doing that is that you learn so much, you not only do different things, but you also learn how to do certain things differently. You get to know so much about yourself as a person, you get to know your goods and bads, where all you can improve yourself, and basically just focusing on being happy in the end. I think at the back of our minds, we all just want to be better than before. You’re starting afresh, so you’re bound to meet new people and get to know them. Yes it’s scary, leaving the ones you’ve been with for the longest time and going someplace else for x y z reasons… But it’s worth it, and something everyone needs in their life. Something new. Something different. Not everyone in this world is open to changes, or okay with the idea of living away from their loved ones. Believe me, you’re just gone temporarily. Just enjoy your time away from everything and everyone for a short period of time.
And you’re lucky if you know someone who stays in the same city or at least nearby, it could be a friend, an acquaintance or a relative. You can reach out to this person whenever you’d like and score a tip or two to know about your surroundings in a much better way; someone to take you around, and then maybe you can get introduced to your friend’s friends and hang out more. Try and build this chain as well as you can, it’s a better option than choosing to stay by yourself or waiting for someone to make an effort with you.
Leaving behind your friends, family and a million memories is difficult, not being able to see your favourite people and things that often anymore, or walking around in your favourite park might not be possible either, or picking up your friend at an odd time just because you felt like having an ice cream… but if you want, you can try and rebuild all of that in the new city, it won’t be the same but at least you won’t feel lonely, because that is the worst feeling ever.
“Great things never came from comfort zones”
Adjusting takes time, yes. Here’s a list of things you can take down in your head, so as to make your shifting and adjusting to a new place slightly easier.
Treat it as an adventure
Living in a new place is a great opportunity to experience new things and to grow as a person. So stay positive, and get out there and explore! Try out their local cuisine. Visit the local market, parks and museums, and forts and palaces. Try local activities that weren’t available or popular in your former city. You may just end up discovering a talent or interest you never knew you had.
Introduce yourself to neighbours and everyone else you meet. Tell them you are new in town. This is one way of getting to know more about your surroundings and places to visit. Or if you’re an unsocial person, then I’d suggest you hire a taxi and explore the city all by yourself, trust me it can be fun alone too! Make sure your phone has enough battery though.
Attend local events that interest you. Exhibitions, a musical fountain show, a performance by a band formed by school/college students outside a mall, or anything else that catches your eye! All of these things will help you meet people and feel connected to your new town. And again, if you count yourself as someone who wouldn’t voluntarily want to get involved in such events, that includes meeting new people, then let Google help you out and take you places.
Locate the necessities
Driving, or walking around your new neighbourhood is the best way to learn where everything is. So head out and take note of the nearest supermarket, pharmacy, salon etc.
Find what you love
You don’t have to give up your hobbies and interests just because you are in a new place. Seek out the things you’ve always enjoyed. If you love listening to live music, hunt for a local rock or jazz club. If you enjoy art, search for galleries. Websites like citysearch.com and yelp.com are great places to look, as are local newspapers and websites.
A fresh move is also a fresh start. It is therefore a great time to fulfil a dream you’ve had, or at least work towards making it come true one day. You’re also going to meet various kinds of people, so don’t limit yourself to the ones who are similar to the people in your previous city, instead try being with different people and see if you like it, you might just learn something totally new from them, and sooner or later find yourself adapting to their kind of lifestyle. You don’t have to be like them, you’re only trying to reinvent yourself.
It’s not as tough as it sounds, but if you’re making a big move like this, then you’ve also got to tell yourself to be a little more open to changes, a lot of changes. And it can be fun, if you allow it. Moving to a new home, bringing in with you your belongings that would make you feel less homesick, redoing your room, painting it the colour that makes you feel happy and positive and putting up picture frames of the things that inspire you the most and people you love the most! Go exploring all by yourself and take the risk of getting lost, you’ll truly grow as a person, and probably become more independent and careful.
Just because you’re moving to a new city or country does not mean you change the core of who you are, and what you want to do, and the way you interact with friends, family and people you meet.
Happy living! 🙂