So how many of you think you’re becoming too old? I definitely used to put myself in this category, but I don’t anymore. I am still in my early 20s and I have a long way to go! And so do you. Yes you do. You’re not dying. Your life isn’t coming to an end. So what if things aren’t in place? So what if life isn’t too nice to you? So what if your plans are a little too messed up? Trust me; it’s alright, because it’s never too late. But that doesn’t mean you take time for granted. It’s never too late if you start working on yourself right now, this very minute maybe (read this, though!). Just stop telling yourself it’s all over. Stop giving up. Stop telling yourself you’re good for nothing. Stop blaming yourself. Stop reminding yourself your age! Majority of us get too involved in our daily routines that we forget to live for ourselves. We are too busy living for others, making them happy, putting in extra efforts, spending lavishly, etc. Did we totally and completely ignore ourselves out there? Don’t be selfish, but devote a few hours to yourself sometimes. Think about yourself; think about your life, where you’re heading, and even if you don’t get your answers, give yourself a reason to smile, even if it involves taking time out and shopping, or trying your hand at cooking something absolutely new, or listening to your favorite songs and applying a new color nail paint, and obviously this might not really apply to the guys, but you can definitely go play soccer, catch up with your old friends, do a research on shooting stars, drive around, play on your ps3/4 or just lie like a dead corpse on your bean bag and not do anything at all. Work on yourself first, and feel proud of the person you are becoming, and that’s only if you find yourself taking time out for nobody else, but you. Ask yourself if you’re happy. If you are, then you’re doing just fine. Nothing else should matter. Especially not your age (again, it’s just a number!) And in case you’re not too sure if you’re happy or not, then get out right now, wherever you are, home, office, school, college, etc and scream your lungs out and get over with your frustration!
I learnt one really beautiful thing from my grandfather: He used to face every problem with a nice big smile. No matter the situation, he would always laugh it off, and next minute come up with a reasonable solution, and end up ordering some snacks, and sometimes furniture to make his surroundings a little different from what it was when the problem knocked at his door. This would bring in some positivity not just in his life, but our lives too, by just looking at him. He was old, but he lived his life happily, he did what gave him happiness, but he always put his family before himself. One beautiful soul, a million lessons learned and infinite smiles spread all around!
You’re not old. Since our society equates happiness with youth, we often assume that sorrow, quiet desperation, and hopelessness go hand in hand with getting older. They don’t. Emotional pain or numbness is a symptom of living the wrong life, not a long life.
Yes, you have got to be a little more responsible, you have to take some important decisions about your life, some new things and people to deal with and of course, you have to tackle a couple of questions thrown by the family, but in the end, always remember that age is just a number. It’s totally irrelevant unless, of course, you happen to be a bottle of wine.
“You are as young as your faith, as old as your doubt; as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fear; as young as your hope, as old as your despair.”
No one has the right to tell you how to live your life. No one can take away your happiness. So, if you lost your love recently, or lost your job, or probably got disowned by your parents (this is rare), or got divorced, or beaten up, or arrested, caught drunken driving, had an accident, didn’t get admission in your dream college, or got rejected after giving several interviews, I know it’s easy to say this and extremely hard to do, yes we need to be practical of course, but how about you still look up and tell yourself “I’m going to try one more time” and put your best face on, and walk faster than before towards what you really want! If everyone in this world was successful, it surely and purely wouldn’t have been because of only hard work. If there was no failure, the ones successful today wouldn’t have been where they are, right now. Things may not work out as planned but often in life something we initially consider a devastation we later look back on as a gift from the universe, a blessing in disguise; because we wouldn’t be where we are today had it played out otherwise. Disappointments and setbacks afford us the opportunity to witness our deepest strengths. They challenge us, and when we rise back up, and we always do, we see that we’re now stronger, wiser, more fearless versions of ourselves.
Life is a series of acts, some go better than expected, and others don’t. But it’s not about playing it so safe that you never fail, it’s about picking yourself up when you do and going into the next act with as much determination and enthusiasm as if it’s the first. If you’re lucky enough to have a dream, something that no matter how hard you try or how many years pass by you can’t shake, you owe it to yourself and the world to go for it. It’s scary. There’s no getting around it. But greatness comes from taking risks.
You can also try to remember if there was something you wanted to do as a kid, but then turned away from because it was discouraged by someone. Don’t let your age come in the middle. Just do what you have to do. Be happy. Take risks. Do childish things. Go get married (and if that doesn’t help, then live with your best friend for a couple of days). Go on a long vacation. Visit a village. Love unconditionally. You’ll learn, gradually, and you’ll know there’s so much you need to experience, than crib about your age, your life. Because things will fall in place, you just need to bring in some patience, and well, happiness.