Every day, is a new day, a new beginning, a fresh start to something, a reason to bring about a change in oneself, or the world, a reason to celebrate the fact that you’re alive, that you could wake up to see the sun again, the chance to see the faces of the most loved ones in your life, and most importantly, a reason to smile and be thankful; every day is a new day, and every day there’s something for us to learn.
Throughout the day, you meet people, you go to different places, you eat various cuisines and you have all kinds of conversations, good or bad, with people in your organization, members at home, domestic help, vendors, etc. But each day, there’s something for you to learn, something for you to notice and something that might just change the way you think. Say for e.g. Mr. X had a heated discussion with his immediate colleague Mr. Y in office, and to prove himself right, Mr. X over reacted and blamed everything on Mr. Y, even though he knew he was always wrong; now think about it and tell me, was it okay for Mr. X to overshadow his mistakes just to prove himself right? Don’t you think he should have owned up? Owning up would not only make him a better person, but will also help him realize the importance of honesty and sincerity. The capability of a person to take responsibility of his actions is extremely commendable.
Learning from mistakes requires three things:
-Putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes.
-Having the self-confidence to accept them.
-Being courageous about making changes.
It’s never easy to admit you’ve made a mistake, but it’s a crucial step in learning, growing, and improving yourself. You can only learn from a mistake after you admit you’ve made it. As soon as you start blaming other people, you distance yourself from any possible lesson. But if you courageously stand up and honestly say “This is my mistake and I am responsible” the possibilities for learning will move towards you, and things will be way better than expected. Admission of a mistake, even if only privately to yourself, makes learning possible by moving the focus away from blame assignment and towards understanding.
“Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. However, if it taught you to hold onto grudges, seek revenge, not forgive or show compassion, to categorize people as good or bad, to distrust and be guarded with your feelings then you didn’t learn a thing. God doesn’t bring you lessons to close your heart. He brings you lessons to open it, by developing compassion, learning to listen, seeking to understand instead of speculating, practicing empathy and developing conflict resolution through communication. If he brought you perfect people, how would you ever learn to spiritually evolve?”
― Shannon L. Alder
You can never regret anything you do in life. You kind of have to learn the lesson from whatever the experience is and take it with you on your journey forward.