There are a million kinds of people in this world, a billion different ideas, a trillion doubts and questions, and a gazillion plans. Of course it’ll be hard to find a person like yourself – with the same kind of thinking, same approach, same goals, and same plans. But why is it that most of us feel more comfortable with someone similar than someone completely different. Why do we want to be in our comfort zone all the time, why can’t we get out of that zone and do something different with our lives? Why should we do the same thing every day, when there’s so much more we can experiment and experience. Why settle for “A” when there are 25 other letters. Ensuring stability in what one does, is one thing, but being happy with what we choose to do is the main concern. Most of our lives, we are worrying about our future. Whether we will be successful enough, whether we will have a house big enough to sustain our family, whether we will be with the one we love, whether we will get promoted, etc. the truth is, we spend so much time thinking and worrying about what’s going to happen in future, that we completely ignore our present, and make decisions that we end up regretting later. The whole point of not thinking about our future is avoiding looking back later.
I don’t think the human mind can comprehend the past and the future. They are both just illusions that can manipulate you into thinking there’s some kind of change.
All you need is a direction in life.
Here are 4 lessons that I learned on how to find the right direction in life:
- Stop over-thinking.
So much of our stress and anxiety about the future stems from all the analysis and thinking we do as adults. We ask ourselves all sorts of questions. I recall countless nights lying awake, entertaining ideas and wrestling with my soul. I tried so hard to figure out where I would end up that I often felt defeated before I even began.
But all the over-analysis got me nowhere; it just burned more time.
The reality is that no matter how smart we may be, we cannot predict the future. Things are moving so fast and we’re so interconnected that it is impossible to predict where you’ll end up five years from now.
You just don’t know. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing, because you will not be basing your choice of direction based on a forecast that’s likely to be wrong.
You’ll be making your choice on what’s really important to you, right here and right now, not tomorrow.
By recognizing and ultimately accepting the unpredictable nature of life, we can stop over-thinking and over-analyzing and start living more in the present moment. This helps to open the mind up to the possibilities of today.
- Try anything. Do something.
When you take action and start doing things, you begin to feel better almost immediately, because instead of thinking about some far off place in your head full of uncertainty, you will be working on something that is really certain: your actions.
So many times, I used to get caught up in the chaos of life and was consumed by it, until I realized that while I cannot control what will happen tomorrow, I can control the actions I take every single day.
That’s the real beauty of life—knowing that you have absolute control over each of your thoughts, words, and actions.
And by trying, moving, asking, engaging, experimenting, and walking forward, it puts you one step further than where you were yesterday. And you just never know where that one step will lead you.
I used to feel that if only I knew more, I would be able to make a better decision about the direction I wanted to take in life. But as I dug deeper trying to get more information, the hole got so deep that I found myself buried.
Confused and overwhelmed with so much information, at times conflicting, I just didn’t know what or whom to believe.
Then, I just let go. I let go of all evidence and started following my gut.
I took chances; I took small steps walking forward in the dark. I stumbled, fell but got back up, and went in a different direction. Then again, and again, and again. As they say, the first step was the hardest but I eventually found my way, not because some data point on a career chart showed me which way to go, but because I started to trust my inner voice.
Sure, it was wrong often, but it got better eventually because I was out there doing and learning—not sitting and waiting.
- Believe in yourself.
When I first started exploring new opportunities to find the right direction in my life, I found myself overwhelmed by the competition. There were so many others just like me trying and doing what I was doing.
And turning to my friends didn’t offer any respite, because instead of encouraging me to try new avenues, some of them brought me back to where I began. “Why don’t you be more pragmatic?”
Feeding me with seeds of self-doubt, it took me some time to recover my momentum. And it was in the positive voices of so many others in blogs such as this, videos, and social media that I found encouragement to keep at it. It felt like they were talking about me.
And in that positive lens, I found the light inside of me to bring forward the resiliency that lay dormant.
No longer suppressed by someone else’s ideas of the way things “ought to be,” I continued on my newly discovered path. The more I focused on my own voice and the voices of encouraging friends, the more I grew to believe in myself.
Although for some, finding the right direction might require the journey of a lifetime, I do believe that there is one direction that we are all meant to go: forward.
By taking small steps each and every day, putting aside over-thinking, and realizing that you have everything you need deep within, you can find the right direction in your life. And while it may not be the direction you expected, it will work out just fine.