Dear Stress, Let’s break up!

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Has stress become a part of your everyday life? Take the stress test:

  • Is your mind often busy with too many thoughts?
  • Do you find yourself mentally exhausted at times?
  • Do you sometimes over think things?
  • Do you find yourself focusing on the negatives?
  • Do you have so much going on that it can be difficult to think straight?
  • Do you wish you could just switch everything off and relax?

What is Stress? The storm before the calm. Ask yourself if you’re stressed about something, small or big, and majority of you will say yes. There are so many things in life, that we have planned for ourselves, be it the best possible college, dream job, wedding, family, car, house, etc. We all want the best possible life for ourselves, name one person who doesn’t? One person who doesn’t dream? The truth is, we all do, and always will. A person can get stressed due to many reasons, that mostly lead to bad decision-making, depression, sadness, anxiety, which further affect one’s physical health, ability to think right and cause major changes in a person’s attitude, perception and the ability to deal with certain situations, and people too. Stressed? Maybe after fighting with a loved one and bearing the consequences; not scoring well enough in exams, when you put in your best efforts and expected something good; when all this while you were so focused about your life plans, but things began falling out of place; when the person you have known and loved for so many years told you there’s no future and things had to end; when someone in your family broke all relations, just for money; when you are alone in the city, and can’t find a house for yourself to stay in; when you have been working in the same organization and your salary isn’t enough to support your family, your children’s education, marriage, etc; when you’re picked on because you’re considered dumb, called names; when all your attempts to do something good for yourself fail miserably; when you send in your applications abroad to various universities, yet receive unexpected rejections; when your neighbor buys the most expensive car, and you feel embarrassed because yours isn’t that great, and you wish you had enough money to make them feel the same way; when your family member or friend or dog, etc is hospitalized, and various thoughts cross through your head; when you’re about to hear news about your promotion, or an examination result, etc; when you fail to prove your caliber or stop believing in yourself in the field you’re considered the best at; when you lose all your special friends and can’t get yourself to deal with the loss, etc. I’m sure you must have been able to relate with at least one of the situations listed above. And its okay, we all go through it. What matters in the end is the way we handle it. The way we try and get past it, overcome it, just to take a little step further, and get what we want, and make things happen, make things work out, in order to make ourselves a little stress-free. You need to be able to find solutions yourself, and if that doesn’t work out for you, then you’re stressed, to the core. And if you’re stressed, then you’re going to be okay, let me tell you that. In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive. Keeping yourself involved in something or the other, is of great help. How? Say you’re under a lot of stress, its human nature to block everyone out. In the sense, most of the people lock themselves in their house, they stop conversing with anyone, they stop eating well (sometimes, even miss their meals), they give up on anything and everything that requires them to think or analyze, that requires them to take a step outside of their comfort zone, and involves facing people, and talking to them. Basically, they tend to build a wall, and as each day passes, the wall just gets stronger and stronger, and hence, emotions, feelings, love, relationships, friendships just exist as any other non-living thing in their life. They react to almost everything and everyone, because there’s so much frustration that’s getting built inside every passing minute, that they don’t realize what they’re doing or saying, they don’t realize what is right for them and what is wrong, they make themselves believe that everyone only wants to hurt them, and that, things will never fall back in place. They stop trying, because they believe there’s no point. They restrict themselves to certain things around them, and that’s it, that’s their life. Even if you do try talking to them, half the things will pass through one ear to the other, and the other half will be heard, but not registered.

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Stress can really make things go from bad to worse. There’s a lot of stress out there, and to handle it, you just need to believe in yourself; always go back to the person that you know you are, and don’t let anybody tell you any different, because everyone’s special and everyone’s awesome. There will always be bad days in everyone’s life; it is just the way you handle them, that’ll keep you going! No successful person in this world has ever got things too easily; some work so hard, day and night, shed a lot of tears, sweat and blood, it probably took years and years for them to reach that level, maybe some just got it faster and didn’t have to slog so much, but you? You’ve got to, if you want things to go your way, and if you wish to achieve what you’ve planned for yourself, and not what people expect from you. You know you can do it, all you’ve got to do is – just believe in yourself, and you’re half way there! Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress. Getting stress out of your life takes more than prayer alone. You must take action to make changes and stop doing whatever is causing the stress. You can learn to calm down in the way you handle things.
Till the time your problems don’t get sorted, do all those things you’ve never done before, meet different kinds of people, try and talk about Politics even if it doesn’t interest you, try your hand at painting, call up a friend and discuss about your camping plans together, go bungee jumping, learn kickboxing, join zumba classes, cook some extravagant meals (you’ve always got YouTube!), meditate, etc because you won’t realize it then, but you’ll see a new you in future definitely. Just keep your brain active, make it think, make it analyze, make it happy. What matters in the end is that you should be happy with yourself. You shouldn’t be in a situation when you find yourself looking back and regretting. If things don’t work out in the initial stage, that does not mean they never will. Just keep trying till you have at least a percent of your problem resolved, because once things start falling in place, you know you’ll be okay. When stress is at its highest, just know it can only go down.
Always remember, multiple crosses will make a tick mark. So to get one thing right, you need to go through failure, sometimes. Face it with the best possible smile, and continue doing what you always do. But, don’t stop or slow down.

Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not. Stop reacting all the time. Life will always keep throwing disappointments and unnecessary complications at you, if you can’t dodge them, face them, and rise up against all odds and be strong. You know you can.

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And when I’m stressed? I take a vacation. To the hills. No network, nothing. Just me. I listen to my favorite songs, and make a movie in my head of everything and everyone around me.

So, a note to you, Stress: You and I aren’t working out, too well. So I think it’s better for both of us to go our own ways. I’m better off without you. It has been quite a while since you knew that I want to break up with you. Today is the fateful day when I am firm on my decision; I hope we can part amicably without any complication. I’m sorry, but we’re breaking up, this very second. Goodbye, please don’t ever come back.

-TanyaSinghKochar

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One comment

  1. Midhuna · April 17, 2015

    …Stressed…Desserts…Never thought about it!!!

    Liked by 1 person

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