You make mistakes, mistakes don’t make you.


We are all mistaken sometimes; sometimes we do wrong things, things that have bad consequences. But it does not mean we are evil, or that we cannot be trusted ever afterward.

Everyone makes mistakes, everyone does stupid things, and everyone messes up all the time… but in the end, they learn from their errors and move on. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, life cannot stop and it is just very important that we forgive ourselves!

Learn from them so they can empower you!

When you’re with your people, the ones who’ve known you for a really long time and you guys have always had a very strong bonding, you’ve spent really good time together and talked about so many things, your future, and your lives, everything… when sometimes things don’t go right, you sit together and sort them out… together. But when one falls, and makes mistakes, and things get messed up, you have your friends and family to help you stand up again and start afresh…  you are made to realize what you did, and how you can make your life easier and better by not repeating the same mistake. It takes time, but that feeling you get when you know you have people to correct you and be there, it’s out of the world… but of course, if you make the same mistake twice, then the situation would be a little questionable.

Some mistakes… Just have greater consequences than others. But you don’t have to let the result of one mistake be the thing that defines you. 

Nothing in this life will ever make sense to me but I can’t help but try to collect the change, and hope it’s enough to pay for our mistakes. Honestly, if there’s a good bonding between certain people, there would never be a situation when it’d take a long time to be forgiven. The ones who have been with you for years, will forgive you multiple times, because they know you, they know your intentions, they know how you think, how you feel… they have an idea why you haven’t been feeling like yourself, they still listen to your crap (even if they think you’re lying), they know you’re defensive, selfish and crazy, but they’ll still be with you and keep correcting you..

Sometimes, life throws situations at you, that jumble you up so much and take away your real-self, and you realize you’re not as happy as you were before, you aren’t thinking confidently like you did earlier, and there are so many things that suddenly seem so different… talking from experience, I know how it feels, when you find it so hard to open up, when you don’t have anything to talk about, when you suddenly start feeling like a stranger with people you’ve known nearly all your life..

I am tired of people saying that poor character is the only reason people do wrong things. Actually, circumstances cause people to act a certain way. It’s from those circumstances that a person’s attitude is affected followed by weakening of character. Not the reverse. If we had no faults of our own, we should not take so much pleasure in noticing those in others and judging their lives as either black or white, good or bad. We all live our lives in shades of gray.

True friends will always push you towards the great possibilities of your future, false friends will always chain you to the mistakes in your past.

I believe in the “forgive and forget” policy. Do you?


You come across a lot of people, good and bad, wrong and right, but when you meet those perfect people, you know it clicks and you know it’s perfect and you know this is it – your life, your people, your everything. You get so used to them, you take your most important decisions with them, you tell them your deepest secrets, your problems, etc. It just kills when you know, the mistake you made this time, won’t be accepted, when you know they’re way too hurt to let go.

Imagine life without them… (:

Just never stop trying, because if they mean the world to you even now, then keep that hope alive. If you get reminded of them all the time, be as hopeful as you can be. There’s no harm. And there’s always going to be a “what if” at the back of your mind. It might take time, but if it was true friendship back then, it won’t be too easy for them to let go of you either. Your one mistake can affect a person so much, but your true apologies can change everything too! Keep trying. Better than living in regression, right?

Sometimes the best and worst times of your life can coincide. It is a talent of the soul to discover the joy in pain—-thinking of moments you long for, and knowing you’ll never have them again. The beautiful ghosts of our past haunt us, and yet we still can’t decide if the pain they caused us outweighs the tender moments when they touched our soul. This is the irony of love.

The most surprising part about making a mistake is immediate realization.

The past doesn’t exist. There is nothing to be sorry for. Today is when we start to live. Look… look at the sea. The sea has no past. It is just there. It will never ask us to explain. The stars, the moon are there to light our way, to shine for us. What do they care what might have happened in the past? They are accompanying us, and are happy with that; can you see them shine? The stars are twinkling in the sky; would they do that if the past mattered? Wouldn’t there be a huge storm if God wanted to punish us? We are alone, you and I, with no past, no memories, no guilt, nothing that can stand in the way of… our love.


Mistakes are the usual bridge between inexperience and wisdom.

Everyone makes mistakes. But their true intentions lie embedded in their hearts. Allow them to clarify. Allow them to speak. Give them some time. Allow them to correct their mistakes themselves. And when they finally speak up, don’t ignore them and say “It’s too late”… It’s never too late 🙂 Just don’t leave them alone. Don’t. That’s the worst thing you can do.

I have forgiven myself. I’m at peace now. I think I’m happy. Ask yourself if you are, if you ever made a mistake, and weren’t forgiven.

And to all those who still haven’t forgiven their loved ones… forgive them. Life is too short. Let go and start afresh, and just be happy.

Live 🙂




  1. JP Singh · December 15, 2014

    Well done Tanya. Very motivating. Keep up the good work .

    Liked by 2 people

  2. Pingback: You make mistakes, mistakes don’t make you. | tanyakochar

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