People always leave.

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People always leave. It’s true. At some point or the other, they have to, they will. The ones who are the closest to you, parting with them is something you can never ever think of or imagine, and once they leave, accepting the fact that they’re gone is something you can never ever come to terms with. This is just how it is. Sometimes, you feel like you have a lot of friends you can chill with and go for parties together, etc but if you really think about it, how many friends can you actually share your life with? How many actually come running to you when you need them the most. If you’re super happy and excited about something, how many people do you share that with, who’d genuinely be happy for you and not just fake-show it. Very few, right? Or maybe, only one. There comes a point in your life when you slowly start giving up on people because you care more about those few friends. In some cases, that only one person. That feeling when you connect with someone so well, that you end up talking for hours continuously without ever stopping. That feeling of not letting go of each other because you feel loved, secure and kind of complete. This person could be your best friend, or someone you truly love, anyone. The point is, this feeling. When you end up telling that person every minute detail about your life, you talk about every possible random thing in this world, you laugh at the lamest jokes, you pair each other up with complete weirdos, you take each other’s case all the time, etc and most importantly, you’re unknowingly possessive of each other. The way that friend comes up to you and hugs you and almost strangles you to death. The way that friend looks at you with those mischievous eyes, and you just get to know something is up, and next thing you know, you’re getting calls from random people for a “rishta”. Just stating examples here, well. When you’re with that person, it’s a clichéd thing to say that one forgets everything else, but it’s true that your mind does get deviated for a while and you find yourself tension-free for those few hours. You do end up solving your problems as well, unknowingly. That’s just how it is, that’s the spark of this friendship. It’s so pure, and effortless. And that’s how it should be. Unconditional, yet conditional. And if you’re lucky enough to find this person (or more), staying away from them is going to be an issue definitely. You know, I’m not particularly referring to this person as a girlfriend/boyfriend, but a friend you think about in every possible situation, moment, time, etc. In most cases, a best friend. Say, you’re ever stuck in a situation and you can’t get yourself to decide what to do, you put your friend in your place and think from his/her point of view, and Boom! You get your solution. So you just basically end up doing exactly that. And even if it doesn’t work out, you still made a decision. When one fine day, this friend gives one word replies, we are able to figure out within nanoseconds something is up. Small things like these make a huge difference. When you know how that friend would react to certain things, the exact same words, like it’s just so predictable. This is what we call a “connection”. Life is not really about you know, the number of friends you have on Facebook, number of followers, number of likes you get on a picture or a status, number of people who have a crush on you, or know of you, or number of phone calls and messages you receive on your birthday, number of gifts and cards you receive on any occasion. It just does not matter. What 5 people can give you together is not equal to what that one person can give you. Somehow, that one person will always hold more importance than ever, because yet again, quality weighs way more than quantity. Never ever make the mistake of assuming things; never ever get disheartened because you only have one or two friends. Never ever block people out, because you feel you’re good for nothing. People will always talk about you, and judge you, and fight with you, and try to put you off, but guess what?

Giving up and crying about it, will never ever help. Trust me, never. Though, you will gain a lot of sympathy. Want that? If someone doesn’t like you, then don’t feel bad or wonder why. Instead, you walk to the ones who truly and genuinely love you and have always been there for you, hug them and feel blessed. One simple advice that this whole world needs: Stop thinking so much. The more you think, the harder it’ll be for you to handle a situation. Just take it easy. No pressure.

So the worst part is, when your most favorite person leaves. Even if it’s for a year or two, or more, the truth is he/she won’t be around as much. And dealing with this, is the hardest ever. I know. But distance can never overshadow the worthiness of this friendship. If it was real, there will never ever be any sort of fear. Be happy that your friend is going to make his/her life better, will grow as a person, and most importantly, he/she will be happy, successful and satisfied. You’ll be proud of your friend. That’s all that matters! Well, these things are easy to say, and I’m going through the same, but then life can’t stop right? You’ve got to do what you’ve got to do too! And then there’s this whole thing about technology. How you can constantly be in touch. Well. It’s not the same as being together in real and spending time, but yet again, the faster we start accepting things, the better it is. Isn’t it? So buck up, and smile like crazy and keep in touch, make genuine efforts and breathe. That’s all that’s required, that’s all you need to do. This is life. Take it as it comes, watch it as it goes.

And don’t forget…one day, you’ll leave too 🙂

-TanyaSinghKochar

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2 comments

  1. Unknown · December 2, 2014

    You say everybody leave,
    But have you thought about their perspective? Maybe they had their own reasons, or maybe they just found that one person that they ended having hours of conversation and it wasn’t you.
    Friendship doesn’t have an expiry date, it’s like a toy which one might have loved when he/she is young, but as they mature they tend to attracted by different things, in this case people.
    There is a saying
    ” Change is the only constant thing in this universe “. Better to accept it than to fight a worthless battle with it.
    People leave, true, but then you meet new people and boom! New Friends.

    Like

  2. Unknown · December 3, 2014

    You say everybody leave,
    But have you thought about their perspective? Maybe they had their own reasons, or maybe they just found that one person that they ended having hours of conversation and it wasn’t you.
    Friendship doesn’t have an expiry date, it’s like a toy which one might have loved when he/she is young, but as they mature they tend to attracted by different things, in this case people.
    There is a saying
    ” Change is the only constant thing in this universe “. Better to accept it than to fight a worthless battle with it.
    People leave, true, but then you meet new people and boom! New Friends.

    Like

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