I often wonder if the life we’re living and the things we see are really true. Are the things we hear, actually what we wish to hear, are the things we say actually heard the way they’re supposed to be heard? And I have my doubts on the things we feel. Are our feelings even real towards things, moments and most importantly, people? I’m not quite sure, because everything around feels temporary. Nothing lasts. And I’ve come to realize there’s no “always” or “forever” and I’ll go on to explain why I am saying what I am saying.
A few years ago, I’d come across a quote that basically stated that “forever” doesn’t exist. And I believed in forevers so much, that I dissed that quote and went around saying it to humans who apparently mattered at that time, which was almost everyone. What I didn’t realize is that “forever” is too scary to be true. What I didn’t realize is that forevers can’t be so many. It’s probably just that one person. Or a few. I mean, imagine you’re stuck with a particular person forever. You have to deal with something forever. And what do I know about forevers? How long is a “forever” going to last? Is “forever” for a lifetime? Or it’s for the immortals. I don’t get it now. People leave. People lie. People break your heart. People hurt. People. People. People. Forever.
I’ve come to realize that sometimes the best things slip away from your life, like they never existed in the first place. They slip away, mostly “forever” and you’re sitting and wondering “but wasn’t the best supposed to stay? Wasn’t this my “forever “?
As we grow up, we start feeling like we’re finally understanding life, finally getting the whole point of our existence, we’re finally learning things, we’re maturing with time, and we’re able to make decisions and handle things well. But there’s always a contradiction to everything. And while most of you reading this would definitely agree with me, there’d be some who would completely ignore this, because they have their own perception, and that’s fine. But what i think is, it’s really not that transparent, really not that easy after all. I fail to understand the purpose of a lot of things around me. Why people behave a certain way. Why things don’t turn out the way you want. And it’s absolutely alright if I can’t, yet, but I will at some point of time. The crux is, that it’s okay to be unable to figure things out. And it’s okay to not understand the reasons behind what people say and do.
Had life been so easy, we wouldn’t have been doing what we’re doing now in life. We meet certain people for a reason. Maybe their stance in your life is for a few days, weeks, months, years, God knows, but the fact is, that they teach you some things here and there, knowingly unknowingly, and it’s totally up to you how you want to take it. It’s entirely up to you how you want to make yourself feel, how you want to perceive it.
Life will never come easy. Because the day it does, it won’t be life enough. It won’t feel real. It won’t feel like anything. We humans are used to complications. We humans are used to tackling things. We humans have a fight. We humans tend to work things out to overcome problems. We tend to crib a lot for the smallest of things. We cry. We realize. We accept. And we get up.
So let’s spend the rest of our lives worrying less, caring more, thinking appropriately, and living in the moment. Just simply making sure, that we’re keeping our cool, being our genuine best, staying positive, and having a lot of patience. What’s meant to happen, shall happen. Believe in yourself enough, to make things happen the way you want.
Work on it. Don’t just say it. Don’t just believe it. That’s not enough. Make it happen. Make it happen.
Even if it’s a “forever”, make it happen. It’s your life. You drive it. You control it. You choose.
If you love someone, and you know it feels right, it feels perfect, you find yourself smiling at just the thought of his or her name or face, then let that person know. Let’s not spend too much of our precious time thinking, let’s actually do this, let’s get going, and let’s do what makes us happy, let’s do what feels right, let’s live for ourselves.
If you wish to apply at your dream organization, but you find yourself at the utmost skeptical stage, then pause for a second, and think to yourself “what if” and nothing in the world can stop you. Try and listen to your voice, your heart, know what you want, and then go with that. Your first instincts. Your first call. Apply.
As I always say, life is too short, let’s not waste it, my friend.
Let’s live it up, and make memories with our favorite humans. Let’s take those pending trips, let’s explore, let’s find ourselves, and let’s just give ourselves infinite reasons to smile. Can we do that? You have the answer.
-Tanya Singh Kochar